This post has really helped me as I can relate to every single word. Every woman (or man) dealing with a narcissistic ex should follow Kim Saeed. Recovering from abuse seems to be a daily trial for me, and as I lapsed today – I turned to her blog for support. Be reassured that it’s not you, and the new supply he cheated on you with – will not last.
Being discarded by a Narcissist is one of the most painful experiences victims endure…well, after the heart-wrenching devalue phase. It’s like icing on an insidious, poisonous cake for which only Narcissists hold the recipe.
After being discarded, you believe it’s your fault. You obsess over whether you could have done things differently. You languish over your abuser, brooding over whether there’s a chance to win him back and prove your worth.
That’s precisely what he wants.
You see, while he was preening the new supply behind your back, he was busy telling you (and everyone within a 50-mile radius) everything that’s wrong with you and your place in the demise of the relationship. He wants you to believe you are the one who drove him into the arms of another woman. And that’s what victims believe. Every time.
Narcissists need you to think the problems…
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